Nervous About First Dates?
Breathe. You're about to go on a first date. You're going through all the possibilities in your head—from fantasizing about the best possible scenario of love at first sight to dreading the horrific possibility of sitting across the table from a weirdo all night. It's all good - Dating is a like a Shark Feeding Frenzy - just go with it! Breathe...
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1. Your date is nervous, too.
Chances are your date is probably calming their own nerves, too. Your date has agreed to meet you, which means they're willing to check you out. The million scenarios that ran through your head likely ran through your date's head as well. This isn't a job interview where your potential boss is only scanning you for a good impression; it's a date where two people are evaluating each other. It's absolutely human to have nerves, so it should give you some peace to know your date is probably jittering, too.
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2. You can't control everything.
Of course, you should show up with your game face on, look the part, and play the part. But so many factors are out of your hands—from the weather to if your date will think your jokes are funny. Since you can only prepare so much, leave the rest up to the universe.
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3. Energy is more easily read than you think.
Unless you suffer from serious, debilitating anxiety, for the most part, your date will probably read your overall energy despite the nerves. Meaning, if you're a talkative person up for adventure but your nerves get you stuttering and telling boring stories, your date may still leave with the impression that you're that energetic person—but with first date jitters.
